Sexual abuse and rape are considered a taboo in Pakistan. No one to held accountable for, no one to talk about, and no one to blame for; In this highly modernized society, we still lag behind in the things which need discussions the most. Let’s just forget that sexual abuse, child abuse, rape, and human trafficking are unmentionables in Pakistan and let’s start talking about the facts that have deliberately been excluded from the paper.
Up to 72 per cent of the women in Pakistan have to face physical or sexual abuse in an average of more than once in their lifetimes. About 2,900 women are being down-right raped in Pakistan and since 2008 the police had registered some 10,703 rape cases in the country, and prominently more than the mentioned number of cases go unreported.
Can you conjecture the fact that a woman sitting by your side may have gone through this stigma multiple times and she still has to shut herself because this society doesn’t allow them to do so?
And let’s come to the datum of this tête-à-tête that apart from young women, children are also the victim of extensive sexual exploitation and what’s more is that these children are killed before being ruthlessly dumped into the garbage. There is more to add to this callous, merciless, and cold-blooded scenario but words can’t justify and portray the interconnected web of ill-treatment and negligence this society has been going through or inflicting upon.
CAN YOU CONJECTURE THE FACT THAT A WOMAN SITTING BY YOUR SIDE MAY HAVE GONE THROUGH THIS STIGMA MULTIPLE TIMES AND SHE STILL HAS TO SHUT HERSELF BECAUSE THIS SOCIETY DOESN’T ALLOW THEM TO DO SO?
What can we do to prevent our society from draining its moral and ethical values? It needs to be blatantly mentioned here that most of these cases happen in areas where education is scarce and men have an edge over women. Or, in some cases, when male ego is hurt and they retaliate against vetoed marriage proposal.
Apart from rape; sexual abuse like eve teasing, accidental touching, lewd remarks, sexism, and obscenity are another and a widespread addition to the list. The counter argument that is presented when talked about this harsh reality by most is that a woman must have instigated the act through her dressing, lifestyle, incorrect acts, and what not. This squabble is definitely pointless and carries no weight, as no one deliberately calls for an assault.
What, as a woman, we need to do know or instill as values in our kids? We have to teach them that it is okay to raise your voice when confronted with such situation; we need to teach our kids that it is not right to harass women or abuse them. Until and unless we inculcate morals and ethical values in our children we won’t be able to eradicate this society from the menace of sexual abuse and harassment.