Staying positive is not as easy as it seems some times people tend to slip in to negative thinking patterns which can create major problems in our lives, we worry about our past mistakes or current stresses and how they will or did lead us to negative outcomes. We might obsess about or over analyze regular experiences.
If you have these traits you are what psychologists call a ruminator, or an over-thinking and this way of living can be very harmful to your physical and mental health. Studies have found that over-thinking can be a detrimental to human performance and can lead to thing like anxiety and depression here are some ways to stop over-thinking and find peace.
Accept that you have a problem with over thinking, the first step to healing oneself is accepting the problem. Burying your head in the sand or denying this reality will make the situation worse.
Learn to forgive yourself, once you realize you’re an over thinker, forgive yourself because the brain is hard wired to ,make over-thinking a natural tendency. Psychologist Susan Nolen-Hoeksema says ” the organisation of our brains sets us up fr over-thinking” because our thoughts and memories are intrinsically woven together. so when you get in to a bad mood it can unlock an immense amount of racing negative thoughts that have nothing to do with original trigger for the bad mood.
Talk less, may over-thinkers tend to “talk it out” when they are feeling stressed , while talking about things might help some-times usually it will just make things worse especially if the person you are talking is an over-thinker like you, however if you do feel a strong urge to discuss your issues , try to write it down to clear them out of your head and maybe if you read them to yourself , you may find them silly, this type of free association journaling has been immensely helpful for many over-thinkers