A case study conducted on about a million people has found that the upper echelons of top performance are filled with people who are high in emotional intelligence (90% of top performers, to be exact). The hallmark of emotional intelligence is self-control a skill that unleashes massive productivity by keeping you focused and on track.
Unfortunately self-control is a skill difficult to rely as mainly due to it’s fleeting nature. Self-control is so fleeting in-fact that when a survey of two million people was done about how they would rank their strengths and weakness, self control always for most people (about 80%) came in last and fell among their weakness. Self control is something all of us could use a little help with. So we gathered points that could help you be productive in your professional life and which help you learn to master self control.
Focus on solutions.
Where you focus your attention determines your emotional and mental state. When you are fixated on the problems that you’re facing, you ten to create and prolong negative emotions which mess with your self-control. But when you start to focus on the actions you’ll take to better yourself and your circumstances, you create a sense of personal efficacy that produces positive emotions and improves performance. Emotionally intelligent people won’t dwell on problems because they know they’re most effective when they focus on solutions.
Getting your body moving for as little as 10 minutes releases GABA(Gamma-amino butyric acid) a neurotransmitter that makes your brain feel soothed and keeps you in control of your impulses. If you’re having trouble resisting the impulse to walk over to the office next door to let somebody have it, just keep on walking. You should have the impulse under control by the time you get back.
Meditation actually trains your brain to become a self-control machine. And you don’t have to very complicated things even simple techniques like mindfulness, which involves taking as little as five minutes a day to focus on nothing more than your breathing and your senses, improves your self-awareness and your brain’s ability to resist destructive impulses.
Don’t seek perfection.
Emotionally intelligent people won’t set perfection as their target because they know it doesn’t exist. Human beings, by our very nature, are not meant to be perfectionist. When perfection is your goal, you will always be left with an annoying sense of failure that makes you want to give up or reduce your effort. You end up spending your time lamenting what you failed to accomplish and what you should have done differently instead of moving forward excited about what you’ve achieved and what you will accomplish in the future.
These are just some of the secrets to mastering self-control. One thing to always keep in mind is that self-control and productivity go hand in hand. Another key point to remember is to remember that you have to give these strategies the opportunity to work. This means recognizing the moments where you are struggling with self-control and, rather than giving in to the impulse, taking a look at these strategies and giving them a go before you give up.