Parents are the divine creation, there is no doubt in that. Whatever they say or do is always in the best interest of their children. Since the day we have opened our eyes, we all have always considered them as our guardians, angels, protectors and everything that we can consider them to be.
However, this must be kept in mind that whatever you say or do in front of your children in an immature age stays with them forever. We all want our children to be known to the reality, but do not suppress their inner voice as it can reap greater damages in life later on.
So, here are 8 important phrases that you should never use in front of your children:
I am disappointed in YOU!
When you say this to your child, what we really do is shatter their inner selves. Whatever the reason might be, there are chances that your child is already feeling let down and that you should not use such sentences. This may clearly destroy their self confidence. What you really need to say is that; “Whatever you did was wrong, but we can definitely talk about that.”
Boys/ Big girls don’t get scared:
Boys don’t get scared! This is what we have been listening since ages and this has become a stereotype. Don’t instill such values and thoughts in your children. Everyone feels scared and it is okay to show this too. “It’s okay to get scared, everybody feels fear every once a while” – this is what they actually need to hear.
STOP crying right now!
“It’s okay to cry, but let me know why are you crying without any apparent reason” – yes, your child could cry without any apparent reason and it’s totally okay. However, shouting on them and telling them that there is no need to cry is the worst thing you could do. If you do this in the initial stages of their childhood, they will suppress their emotions for the rest of life.
You are WORTHLESS!
Never undermine the confidence of your children by saying that they are not doing good enough or they are not sufficient for themselves or others. All you have to say is; “Try harder and you will definitely make your mark”.
I do everything, but get nothing. . .
You are parents, it’s your responsibility to do everything for your children. They did not choose to be born, but they were your choice. Words like these hurt children so much that this can lead to the deterioration of self-confidence. What could be better than saying; “I try my level best and want you to help me too.”
You’re a bad KID.
Let me tell you one thing. I am no good at parenting advice, but if you ever say this to your kid, I am sorry but you need to rethink your ways. Instead of using such a harsh phrase, try saying; “What you did was bad”.
Don’t you dare to speak in front of me:
Never, ever say this to your children. Why do you want them to stay so frightened from you? “Listen to me when I ask you anything” – is all you need to substitute your arrogant behaviour with.